The two manipulators and bullies that terrorising women on our cyberspace. Kolawole Bashiru Adenuga from Maryland USA and Abraham soji Coker from Grays Essex UK
10 signs of a manipulative man1. He makes you feel guilty — for everything.
Manipulation always starts with guilt. If he can convince you to feel guilty for your actions (even when you've done nothing wrong), then he knows you'll be more willing to do what he says. It affects your mental health and wears you down.
Examples of guilt as emotional manipulation:
“I mean sure, I guess dinner was OK. It wasn't what I was hoping for, and I would have rather done something different, but I guess as long as you’re happy, that’s all that matters.”
See what he did there? How he turned that around you? On the surface, he makes it seem like he's a loving boyfriend, but spoiler alert: guilt trips aren't love.
Manipulators also try and make you believe that they're doing a better job of “loving you” so that you'll be more willing to set aside what you want — and even other people in your life, like family members — in order to feel like you “love him just as much.” It's a sick mind game that leaves you feeling depressed and isolated.
He forces his insecurities on you.
Manipulators will often force their own insecurities on you in an effort to control how you react toward them, all while pretending they're trying to have a healthy relationship.
Examples of using insecurities as emotional manipulation:
“I’ve been cheated on before and that’s why I don’t want you to have any male friends. You can understand that, right?”
Yes, of course, you can understand that (and you should be conscious of his insecurities), but his struggles should not define the functionality of your relationship.
"I'm sorry I acted that way, but I'm just so scared you'll leave me!" is an excuse that's often used by manipulators when you point out flaws in his actions. The sheer purpose of that excuse is to take the focus off of your worries and suck you back into this.
There's a fine line between showing consideration for his feelings and being manipulated into feeling what he wants you to feel. Consideration is shown with love while manipulatio
3. He makes you doubt yourself.
Want to know why it's so easy for him to be manipulated? Because he's gaslit you to the point where you no longer trust yourself. Manipulators take your insecurities and use them against you.
Examples of embedding self-doubt as emotional manipulation:
They consistently point out what you're doing “wrong” and how they could have done it better.
They point out your weaknesses, then show you that, with their help, you can do better, be better. They slowly convince you they have your best interests in mind, but they don’t. They have their best interests in mind.
To be continued.... Pt1
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