"I want someone kind, wise, filled with love, and grounded in good character" - Nigerian woman seeks second wife for her husband

A Nigerian woman, Buithat Hudu Muhammad Lawal, is seeking a second wife for her husband. 

The Biochemist, who disclosed this in a Facebook post on Wednesday, April 9, 2025, said she admires polygamy but has issues with the way some men go about it. 

 

 

According to Buithat, she doesn't want a jealous or manipulative co-wife but someone kind, wise, filled with love and of good character.

 

"Hey loves, I’m smiling as I write this. Yesterday, I made a post about wanting a co-wife — someone to join me in this journey of life with my husband. I noticed a lot of people thought I wasn’t serious, maybe even joked about it. But deep down, I meant every word,” she wrote. 

 

I’ve always admired polygamy. It’s never been an issue for me. What I do take issue with is how many of our men go about it, lacking fairness and wisdom.

 

Growth changes a person. As I’ve grown, so have my thoughts. I’ve always told my husband, if he wants to take another wife, I support it — but he must involve me fully in the process.

 No, I’m not looking for a jealous or manipulative co-wife. I want someone kind, wise, filled with love, and grounded in good character.

 

I want the freedom to travel for work knowing my children are safe and cared for. I want to be able to love and care for another child of my husband’s — not born by me — with sincerity, and knowing their mother trusts me completely. I have a deep vision of what polygamy can be, but the real questions are: Can my husband be truly just? And can the new wife be spiritually grounded?

 

Life really isn’t meant to be this hard.

 

I just needed to share my thoughts on polygamy and what it means to me.k